Victim or Victor

The day we are born we develop, grow and become who we decide to be. It is all down to a matter of choice how we play out our present and future lives. What we become is what we choose to become. It is not a matter of we become or became this or that because so and so told us so. We are all masters of our own destiny. I reiterate that we are who we are today as individuals because of who we chose to be.

Sadly a lot of us being who we are and maybe not happy, satisfied or appreciative of whom we are or become, choose to find an escape route. One of those escape route is that of playing the victim. The victim is the one who finds him/herself in a sphere of negative mindset. They choose to avoid responsibility for their lives and rather choose to blame others and situations for where they find themselves and where they believe they might be headed. Victims delve in negative self talk. Their self talk consist of “cannot”, “its too difficult”, “its not possible”, “bad things always happens to me”, “when am I going to be lucky?”, “I can never do anything right!” or alternatively, “he/she is to blame”, “its their fault”, “I didn’t do it, they did it!” and on and on it goes with more and more negative self talk to compound their victim traits.

Victims often play out this role to seek attention and sympathy. Victims don’t go out there and make things happen but rather choose to go with the flow and whatever circumstances prevail. If it doesn’t roll in their favour then they are quick to delve back into their negative attitude towards where they find themselves. Once again we need to understand that whatever we do, choices we make, actions we take, we are sole masters of our destiny. There is a saying. If you can change your attitude for the better, you then also have the ability to change your life. If you have an attitude that you “cannot”, then rest assured you will live a life that revolves around not getting anywhere, not achieving much. If you however decide to do an about turn and change your attitude to “I can”, your world can be that of opportunities and positive things.

Some victims are quick to blame their upbringings, their circumstances, blaming parents for who they are and what they have become. The secret to becoming a victor instead of a victim is to acknowledge the pitfalls and negative memories of past. As hard as it seems, it can be worked through but we need to define what it was that created the negative, victim mindset. We need to acknowledge it. We need to accept and realize that as hurtful, painful or degrading it had been, we need to make peace and forgive that past. We may not have caused the act of hurt, pain or degradation yet we may have chosen to become a victim because of it. Sometimes forgiveness is one of your greatness human tools. By changing your mindset and rather choosing to become a survivor, a victor and move away from the status of victim which inevitably will take you to a dead end in your life, you then create the ability to welcome so much more that is positive into your life.

To escape the hold of being a victim, you need to understand that you need to do it yourself. As an individual human soul, we are answerable to no one else other than ourselves. You only move away from playing victim by changing your attitude towards yourself. No one else will do this. You need to encourage and motivate yourself to move beyond where you may currently find yourself. Only you can do this. This will take time, but continual management and acknowledgment of your attitude, your outlook and your desire to be a victor instead of a victim will take one step at a time. The beauty is, it can be done and many have succeeded. When we start taking responsibility for our successes as well as our failures, for our strengths as well as our weaknesses, for our victim mindset as well as our desire to be the victor, we then move into the sphere of self empowerment and greater things!
When great things happen in your life, you must remember, you made it happen. You had a hand in it!
Nobody is responsible for your life but only you. When you play victim it ultimately makes you nothing in this world. It forms barriers in you life. It places limitations on your ability to live your fullest life. It gives you a ticket to always find an excuse. It shadows your true desires, dreams and aspirations. You lose perspective and allow others to control your life. Don’t lose control. We are all gifted human beings with enough credits to take. Say no to be a victim. Say yes to be the victor! Take control of your greatest role in life yet!